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We've moved!



I ended 2014 with the urge to move. Growing up, I moved around a lot and I always wanted to find that one home where my children would know as home and feel safe and comfort when they walked through the doors and into the foyer. I thought that we had that on the farm but things kept going wrong and the more that I wanted to make it into the home that I longed for, the faster thing were falling apart and stopping it from happening.

The farmhouse was built in the 1700's for the first mineworkers in the area - it is old! And as much as I adore the history and the quirks that made it appealing to us, it wasn't being maintained by the owner and he wanted zero involvement. Personally, we're not in the position to buy a home just yet, but I also found it ridiculous having to fix things like geysers, mould and wooden floors that I was falling through, at my own expense for someone else's home. One thing lead to the next and with only 1,5 weeks to pack we found new tenants and a new home!

Our farmhouse has served us well - it was where Darren and I got married, where we found out we were expecting, where we welcomed new fur-babies and said goodbye to our dear pal, Sprockie. It is Axl's first home and all that he knew - but now it's time to move on and create new memories.


Our new home is smaller and a little more expensive but it is EVERYTHING we need and wanted from a home. It is within walking distance of shops like Woolies, Clicks and even a a Virgin Active Gym!

I like that it is smaller, though it is a schlep to try find place for things that were once stored in our pantry or spare room. I am able to go on about my daily chores without having to always wonder if Axl is ok because he is always nearby and within my view. He has grown so independent in the last week of being here and has started to enjoy being in his own room, where he plays with his cars, wagon and piano. Our bedroom has become just that... a bedroom. In our old house, our bedroom was Axl's playroom, a lounge, dining area and work space. We had a TV in our room and due to the hazard that was the wooden floors, we tended to stay in our room for the most part. Now, it can only fit our bed and my dresser - yayee! This also means more family time in the lounge. With it all open planned, I am able to cook dinner, while Axl plays cars and D works on his websites. We're all busy with our own thing, but not far enough to feel like we're disconnected.


Best part? We can get normal, working internet! By now you know that I work as a virtual assistant and the company that I work for has grown significantly in the last 3 months. My roles and responsibilities have also grown due to my colleague leaving and the majority of the duties falling on me - I am loving it. My job has become challenging and on the go, which means I am seriously enjoying it but that I need to be in daily with reliable connection. Now that we're off the farm, I can get a 20MB line and not worry about disconnecting when a little bit of wind hits us. Darren and I are ecstatic!

Besides the move...


Axl turns one in 19 very short days! Where on earth has the year gone? We're planning a little family get-together to celebrate our new home and the coolest little dude. The theme for the party is "Little Man" and I have already started pinning ideas. I feel like I have failed to document every amazing moment that I have shared with this little guy and how much he has changed our lives, but in the same breath I want to just enjoy what I have with him because before I finish typing it, he will be onto the next thing and then we'll be picking out uniforms and school subjects.

He's communication skills are growing by the day. He understands "ta" and says it every now and then. "Mama" is a firm favourite, followed by "gaggy" (daddy) and has recently started with "woof" whenever the dogs start barking. He waves hello and "ta-ta" whenever we say hi and bye to people and likes to babble about "ba-ba" all the time.


I can't believe how much he has developed. Before, he would drop something and it would seize to exist any more, nowadays, he knows to climb under the couch and collect it. He has figured out how to climb onto the couch, too. He loves Taylor Swift's Shake-it-Off and whenever there's a little tantrum about to erupt he gets completely distracted by the nearby i-Pad or cellphone which conveniently has the video bookmarked. He tends to shake the device and softly hum with the music, too. He has become a little more confident and steady on his feet but still has the odd-speed wobble, every now and then which ends in a quick break-down of tears and snot, but a little sip of water and mom's miracle cream, and we're good to go.





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WIN with Bio-Oil this Pregnancy Awareness Week

Childbirth educators, hospitals and specialist skincare brand Bio-Oil are joining hands to highlight the importance of childbirth education during Pregnancy Education Week this February. There will be free talks and various pregnancy-related events happening around the country. “A professional childbirth educator, with the experience and expertise to help people make informed choices on their journey to parenthood, is a vital source of knowledge in today’s technological world,” says Zarah Riley, spokesperson for Bio-Oil.

“Knowledge is the key to a safe, successful pregnancy, birth and parenting experience,” says Lynne Bluff, national co-ordinator for the Childbirth Educators’ Professional Forum and editor of The Expectant Mother’s Guide. “At the very least it will improve your birth experience, and at best it can save your life.”

Bluff says ideally everyone should attend childbirth education classes, which cover all aspects of pregnancy and birth as well as how to care for the newborn baby. “Although there are a couple of good online courses available, attending classes - which are usually held in the evenings or over a weekend - are more recommended; the interaction with the childbirth educator and other pregnant couples in the class is invaluable. Often lifelong friendships are formed.” To find a childbirth educator in your area or for more details on childbirth education and Pregnancy Education Week visit www.expectantmothersguide.co.za.

Pregnancy Skin Care

Looking after the skin during pregnancy can make a tremendous difference to comfort levels and confidence as pregnancy hormones, rapid growth and a changing body shape take their toll. “The skin is the largest organ in the body and the most visible; its condition has a huge impact on the mother,” says Bluff. According to dermatologist Dr Ayesha Moolla, some of the most common skin concerns during pregnancy are stretch marks (striae), darkening of the skin (hyper-pigmentation), varicose veins and spider veins, reddening of the palms (palmar erythema) and acne.

Stretch Marks

Up to 90% of pregnant women develop stretch marks (medically known as striae). According to Dr Moolla, “Stretch marks are a form of scar tissue. They are caused by a rapid weight gain or expansion in body-shape that results in tiny tears in the dermal layer of skin, which subsequently results in scar formation or stretch marks.”

“Contrary to what you may expect, stretch marks don’t only occur in the later stage of pregnancy,” says gynaecologist Dr Jana Roussouw. “They can start developing as early as the first trimester due to high hormone levels. However they most commonly appear in the second and third trimesters of pregnancy.”

According to Dr Roussouw “Stretch marks are most likely to form on the abdomen, but can also occur on the breasts, hips and thighs – any area that experiences rapid growth.”

Dr Moolla says anyone who has a rapid gain in weight is at risk of developing stretch marks. “There are of course, other factors that come into play including family history – if either parent has stretch marks then one would have a proclivity towards developing them.”

“It’s important to follow a healthy lifestyle during pregnancy and not gain too much weight. We aim at a weight gain of around 12kgs, bearing in mind that after 36 weeks the mother should be gaining around a kilo a week,” says Dr Roussouw.

Dr Moolla says as well as maintaining a healthy weight there are other ways to help prevent stretch marks: “Eat a balanced diet rich in food and nutrients that are good for skin health. Drink plenty of water. Twice a day, massage areas that are prone to stretch marks using good quality oils like Bio-Oil, a moisturizer or even an emollient. The massaging action allows the skin to become more pliant and more hydrated. There are supplements that have been advocated for the prevention of stretch marks, such as vitamin C and vitamin E.”

“I actively encourage all pregnant women to use Bio-Oil daily, throughout their pregnancy” says Bluff. “The results are outstanding and have proven themselves over many years. From the feedback I have received it is considered to be the most effective means of preventing stretch marks.”

Bio-Oil is the number one scar and stretch mark product in 21 countries, including South Africa, where it is the product most recommended by gynaecologists and midwives for stretch marks. It also works wonders on Caesarean scars, dehydrated, itchy skin, and pigmentation caused by hormonal fluctuations during pregnancy.

Itchy Dry Skin

“Skin moisturizing is important as the skin can get very itchy and uncomfortable during pregnancy,” says Bluff. Many women experience itchy skin, particularly around the breasts and abdomen as the skin stretches to accommodate growth.

To relieve itching:

  • Massage Bio-Oil into the skin. It is safe to use during pregnancy on face and body. 
  • Add a few drops of Bio-Oil to your bath for an all-over moisturising effect. 
  • Use cool or lukewarm water to wash; hot water can dry out the skin. 
  • Avoid the heat, rather stay inside or under shade during hot weather. 
  • Wear cool, loose clothing. 
“Massaging oil onto the breasts and tummy will moisturise the skin, soothe itchiness and help decrease the chance of stretch marks forming. It’s also a great way to start bonding with the little person inside,” says Bluff.

Uneven Skin Tone

About half of pregnant women develop hyper-pigmentation, a darkening of the skin, as fluctuating hormone levels mean uneven melanin production. According to Dr Moolla, “Melasma (the mask of pregnancy) can cause great distress, with darkening of the skin on the face, especially around the mouth, on the cheeks and forehead. Many women also develop linear nigra, a dark line running vertically down the abdomen to the pubic bone. It is also common for the areola, the area around the nipple, to darken. Pre-existing moles, freckles and even tissue can become darker.

Fortunately most of these changes in the skin will regress spontaneously following delivery. Pigmentation lasts for about three months, as hormones return to pre-pregnancy levels. However, for some people it may not disappear completely.

Bio-Oil has been shown to be effective in helping improve uneven skin tone. During a clinical trial at Medunsa in 2005, 93% of the subjects recorded an improvement in appearance at six weeks and in those with darker skin tones, the improvement continued significantly from week 8 to week 12. Gently massage Bio-Oil into the skin twice a day to improve skin tone, avoid sun exposure and wear a sunblock of at least SPF30 every day.

C-Section Scarring

Bio-Oil is effective for use in scar management, including post-operative Caesarean scars, working to maximise the elasticity of the skin, and providing relief from itching or other irritations. It restores the skin function and helps to improve the appearance of the scar, so that it is softened, flattened and normalised in its colour and texture. During user-trials in the UK in 2002, 85% of the scars on 82 candidates showed an improvement in just four weeks.

Experts recommend taping with micro-pore tape as this supports the skin, reducing stress around the wound and thereby lessening the scar tissue that forms. Plastic surgeon Dr Dirk Lazarus recommends taping for up to a year after the birth of your baby.

Taping Tips

  • Taping a scar will help support and flatten it. Apply a wide Micropore™ tape along the scar. Use a flesh coloured tape if you want it to be less visible.
  • Leave the tape on for up to five days - you can bath, shower and swim as normal. 
  • Change the tape once it starts to peel off. 
  • Massage the scar with Bio-Oil whenever the tape is removed and changed. Gentle massage can improve moisture and increase blood flow in the area, and maintain scar elasticity. 
  • Place a few drops of Bio-Oil on top of the tape daily; as it is porous, the tape will absorb the oil.
  • Regular, continued use of an oil such as Bio-Oil provides the best results.
Four tips for optimum healing of scar tissue:
  • Tape the wound (see above) 
  • Massage the scar regularly with Bio-Oil 
  • Follow a healthy diet that includes high levels of Vitamin C and zinc
  • Don’t smoke
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How to tell your friend who is battling with infertility that you are pregnant




You tell those closest to you, but then there's that friend or couple. The one you've spent so many months with helping mop up her tears, feeding her chocolate and telling her that next month will be her month.

So how do you tell someone you care so much about that you've 'jumped the queue'? That you're pregnant but she remains without her much desired baby?

For your friends or family members that are battling with infertility, your pregnancy announcement may be a painful blow to them. When someone is dealing with infertility, every pregnancy announcement reminds them of what they are unable to have.

Some couples that have been trying for a baby for longer than it’s taken other couples to create an entire family - and it can feel very unfair. Many men and women feel completely isolated or somewhat left behind as their friends move into the family phase of their lives.

“As a company that produces Prelox, a supplement for male infertility, we have an acute understanding of the fact that infertility is a great life crisis that needs to be addressed with kindness, compassion, and thoughtfulness.” says Edward Haefele, Brand Manager at Lamelle Pharma.

He continues, “ Given this scenario among your friends, we advise that you take a little time to consider how to tell those friends about your pregnancy. We have thought of some useful hints to help you break the happy news to your friends while still being sensitive to their emotions.”

1. Let your friends be the first to know.

Don’t make a make a broad announcement on social media or in front of a big group of friends or family before you let them in on your secret.. This will enable your friends to process their emotions first and not feel blindsided or unprepared for the announcement in a public setting.

2. Don't hide it from your friends in an effort to protect them.

If your friend finds out that you’ve kept it from her, she won’t feel protected; she may feel betrayed.

3. Be very gentle when you tell your friends.

You might even tell her over the phone or in an email so she can react the way she needs to. This will help her to feel what she needs to first. This is not about you or her not being happy for you, so try not to be upset. Understand that your pregnancy reminds her of her own loss.

4. Don’t put pressure on your friends. 

If they don't call you back or talk to you for a week or so, just check in with her via email or text. Give them a little time and space.

5. Don’t focus purely on babies when you talk to her.

It’s understandable that it is the center of your world right now and without a doubt your friends are happy for you, but taking about babies 24/7 only serves as a constant reminder of their own battles. If your friends tell you that they wants to know and wants to talk about it with you then by all means, do it. Let her take the lead in how much or how little she wants to know.

6. Be patient and kind.

Just be patient, kind, understanding and open. Tell them that you are there for them and remember to do nothing more than just listen. Whatever you do, don’t try to give advice. Women who are dealing with infertility know way more about getting pregnant than women who get pregnant after 1-6 months of trying.

7. Invite them to the Baby Shower But Give them an Easy Out

A mistake some often make is not inviting their friend or relative to the baby shower. It's true that baby showers are often difficult for the them, but not being invited is also painful. Instead, invite them, but be clear that you understand if she'd rather not attend or wants give a gift at a later time.

About Prelox

Prelox® is a patented blend of Pycnogenol and L-arginine designed to actively treat male infertility.

Lamelle Research Laboratories has achieved extensive credibility using evidence based, innovative and paramedical training.

Taking two Prelox®capsules daily has a significant effect on overall sperm health. Results can be seen within one month.

Two Prelox® taken each morning show multiple benefits including:

· An increase in the anti-oxidative capacity of plasma.

· Stimulates the activity of e-NOS (endothelial nitric oxide synthetase).

· In combination with L-Arginine (Prelox®) increases e-NOS in spermatozoa.

· An increase in spermatozoa NO (Nitric Oxide) increases sperm motility and human sperm capacitance.

· Increase in semen volume

· Increase in spermatozoa concentration

· Increase in percentage of motile spermatozoa

· Increase in percentage of spermatozoa with normal morphology

Price: R495 (including VAT)
Stockist: Available at pharmacies nationwide.

For further information visit www.2tostartafamily.co.za or email prelox@lamelle.co.za

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